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For Lovers Only: What happy couples do before they go to bed


Valentine's Day is coming very soon, and as we know well, it's important to spend more time with your partner, especially before you fall asleep. It does not matter how long time you spend together: a whole hour or just a few minutes. If you both enjoy each other, speak and show your love, that's all you need.

We at TED #pure sense of being have prepared a list of a few simple but very effective tips from specialists, as well as a special bonus at the end of the article.

1. Set your phones to silent mode and leave them away from you.

The dependence on social media suppresses the release of oxytocin in the body. This hormone is responsible for emotional intimacy and attachment. Experts advise you to follow this simple rule: turn off your phones or move them to another room after 21:00.

2. Do not think about work.

Try to forget about the problems at work and stop checking your email when you are in bed. It is much more valuable to spend this time together and to rest, in order to be productive at work the next day. Conversations in bed emotionally connect couples, help to forget about the problems and make you feel relaxed. Avoid talking about work, financial problems or anything else that can make your partner worry.

3. Go to bed at the same time with your partner.

Many couples have not seen each other all day and have the habit of going to bed in different times. Studies show that happy couples brush their teeth and go to sleep at the same time. This helps them to maintain the warmth and intimacy of their relationship.

4. Follow a routine.

Following the same bedtime, regimen helps you sleep better. By following familiar habits, the brain gets a signal that it's time to go to bed and prepares the body for sleep. If you follow an identical routine with your partner, it will make your relationship more intimate and healthy.

5. Speak and talk about deep stuff.

Pay attention to one another and to your feelings. You do not need to give advice or to look for immediate solutions to problems. Sometimes we just want to express our thoughts and feel the care and support of our loved ones. It is advisable to spend a few minutes before falling asleep to express your positive feelings to your partner. This will add a positive feeling at the end of the day and will make you feel better. It also has a beneficial effect on your overall mood. Try to forget about everything that happened this day and leave all your troubles and anguishes outside the bedroom. Tell your partner how much you love him. It is very important to be serious and sincere when expressing your feelings.

6. Do not argue in bed

Try not to go into heated disputes before falling asleep. Fighting never helps to solve a problem. Besides, it will be harder for both of you to fall asleep and the next day you will feel upset.

7. Do not let the children sleep in your bedroom

The only case when you can let the children sleep in your bed is when they have nightmares. In all other cases, your bedroom should be your private space. You need to have this space so you can keep your intimacy.

8. Do not share your bed with your pets

Data shows that 63% of people who sleep with their pets do not sleep enough. Your pet may be active at night and that may disturb your sleep.

9. Do not drink alcohol and do not smoke before bedtime.

Many couples love to have a glass of wine before bedtime to create a romantic atmosphere. However, while your body is absorbing the alcohol, the recovery period of sleep becomes shorter. This will make you feel tired, distracted and easily irritable when you wake up in the morning. Alcohol also stimulates snoring, and nicotine in cigarettes promotes insomnia.

10. Give a message to each other.

Experts confirm that light and relaxing bedtime massage improves the quality of sleep, reduces anxiety and brings the couples closer together.

11. Do not forget about hugs and kisses.

Do not forget to kiss your partner before falling asleep, as well as hug each other for a few minutes while you are in bed. It is very relaxing and produces positive emotions. Psychologists are convinced that if you hug each other during sleep, your relationship is not in trouble.


If you suffer from insomnia, try to make a few changes in your lifestyle:

• Do not drink coffee in the afternoon.

• Get up early in the morning

• Do not eat just before bedtime.

• The good mattress and pillows can help you fall asleep faster and have a better quality sleep

• Do not take naps during weekends.

• Leave any electronics outside the bedroom.

• Refresh the air in your bedroom.

• Take a hot shower before going to bed.

• Try not to work after 21:00.

• Do not drink too much water before falling asleep.

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